Vulnerability: The Key to Better Relationships

M aybe you’re one of those people who cringes when they hear the word “vulnerability.” Maybe the very thought of being more vulnerable nauseates you, conjuring up images of holding hands around the campfire while you cry over how your best friend doesn’t love you like you love him, or whatever.

Well, I’m here to tell you that vulnerability is far simpler, more mundane, and yet way more powerful than all of the preconceived, wishy-washy notions you might have.

Humor me for a moment — read through this list and tell me if any of it applies to you:

• You consistently fall into boring conversation topics because they’re “safe” and shallow and you don’t have to risk offending or inciting anyone with them.
• You’re stuck in a job or lifestyle you don’t truly enjoy, because other people always told you that it was a good idea and you didn’t want to upset or disappoint others.
• You haven’t exercised or groomed yourself to the extent that you could because you didn’t want to stand out too much.
• Dressing extremely well makes you feel uncomfortable.
• Smiling at strangers makes you feel creepy.
• The idea of asking someone out openly scares you because of the possible rejection.