The No-Bullshit Way to Find “The One”

So you want to find “the one” eh? You’re sick and tired of all the dating apps and websites and trying to meet people in your kickball league? And how many awkward first dates can you go on to find a “normal” person? And what’s with all the fake personalities and flaky people who seem more interested in themselves and can’t be bothered to make a slight change in their schedule to, you know, go out with you?

If this describes the majority of your romantic life, I want you to open up your mind a little and start looking at things a little differently from now on.

First, consider this: everyone wants a perfect partner, but few people want to be the perfect partner.

I think the vast majority of problems around “finding someone” are caused by uneven expectations like this.

But when you flip this on its head and you start taking a little more responsibility in this area of your life — when you start focusing on what kind of life you want to live and what kind of partner you want to be — you’ll start to see all the flakes and narcissists and liars fade into the background. You’ll start making genuine connections with people and make each other’s lives more enjoyable.

For years, I probably obsessed a little too much over this part of my life. But after stumbling through one unhealthy…